Evolution steered humans toward pair bonding to ensure the survival of genes. But humans tend to get restless.
- Monogamy is natural, but adultery is, too, says biological anthropologist Helen Fisher.
- Even though humans are animals that form pair bonds, some humans have a predisposition for restlessness. This might come from the evolutionary development of a dual human reproductive strategy.
- This drive to fall in love and form a pair bond evolved for an ecological reason: to rear our children as a team.
Love triggers the same regions of your brain as cocaine addiction.
- Studies have shown that romantic love, while often positive, activates basic brain regions that are also triggered by cocaine addiction.
- Stalking, clinical depression, and even suicides have been attributed to love addictions.
- For better or worse, everybody at some time in their life has been or will be addicted to love.
What areas of the brain are activated when you feel a cosmic connection with someone?
- With evolution came the brain circuitry for feelings of deep attachment to a partner.
- This circuitry changes within the duration of a relationship, and feelings of attachment grow over time.
- In a healthy relationship, that attachment system sustains itself even through hard times.
Many renowned writers have revelled in the gifts of their non-native tongues.
Sally Susman explains how to use truth-telling moments to your future benefit.
- The biggest decision of Pfizer executive Sally Susman's life was to come out as gay in 1984, when society was not as accepting as it is now.
- She was told she would never have a spouse, a career, or children; those were the fears told to her by the people who loved her most.
- Defying that prediction became her personal north star, and 31 years later she has done it. Susman used that truth-telling moment of coming out as a way to focus her ambitions and plant the seeds for her future.