- A new study at the University of Southern Alabama investigates the pornography viewing habits of religious, heterosexual men.
- Those expressing high degrees of scrupulosity feel more guilt and shame when watching porn.
- The researchers found no correlation with viewing frequency and religiosity, however.
Porn Science: Female Sexual Response Is Contrary to Popular Belief, with Daniel Bergner<span style="display:block;position:relative;padding-top:56.25%;" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="4c3eae52a2e5bf67c296680e315daaf4"><iframe type="lazy-iframe" data-runner-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/VCb_xbzjLG8?rel=0" width="100%" height="auto" frameborder="0" scrolling="no" style="position:absolute;top:0;left:0;width:100%;height:100%;"></iframe></span><p>There's also disappointment. In 2017, I traveled to a pornography convention in Las Vegas to discuss the <a href="https://medium.com/@derekberes/the-future-of-virtual-sex-a8f1d3b66b9e" target="_blank">future of sex</a> through the lens of virtual reality. Brian Shuster, founder of HoloGirlsVR, warned about the dangers of believing screens translate to real life. Speaking about teenage boys grappling with newfound sexuality, he says, </p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"The girls they find don't look like the girls they see in videos. First sexual experiences are a disappointment on both sides; probably the first thousand sexual experiences people have are with their computer. They say, 'I'm willing to have sex with real people, but I'm not willing to put in that level of work and commitment and potential disease and pregnancy for a relatively poor sexual experience.'"</p><p>This speaks to the problems. The team then wanted to know if religious men become addicted to violating moral codes—the old "I'm being naughty" mindset. They speculate religious men experience psychological distress from violating their faith's ethics when viewing outlawed material. Borgogna and crew recruited 224 volunteers to measure nine self-reported items, such as perceived compulsivity, problematic access efforts, and emotional distress. </p><p>The team focused on three principles: scrupulosity, an obsessive-compulsive disorder centered on guilt or obsession around religious perfectionism; traditional masculine ideology; and self-compassion, or maintaining an "emotionally positive self-attitude." Before reading responses, they hypothesized scrupulosity and masculine ideology would positively correlate to problematic pornography viewing (with the former providing a strong correlation) while volunteers with high self-compassion scores would not be ridden by guilt.</p>
The reverend Vernon Mitchell talks to women at a strip club as part of a process to determine which segments of the show should be censored, London, 1st November 1960.
Photo by Peter Dunne/Daily Express/Hulton Archive/Getty Images<p>They were partly right. Scrupulosity showed the highest correlation. Self-compassion did not negatively correlate, however. They guessed higher self-compassion, being the antithesis of the rigid, perfectionistic model of scrupulosity, would allow for self-forgiveness. "Unfortunately," they conclude, "our data suggested the relationships to be non-significant." Traditional masculine ideology did not correlate positively either. </p><p>Interestingly, Borgogna found general religiosity is not associated with viewing frequency. Being religious does not mean you view more pornography. Yet for a subset of religious believers there is increased distress. They believe religiosity could be a "protective factor" against viewing frequency for a certain segment of the religious population. </p><p>The team hopes therapists use this information as pornography addiction is an under-discussed topic in clinical settings. They advise mental health practitioners to focus on religious-based obsessive thoughts leading to scrupulosity, the constant impulse to access pornography, and cyclical feelings of guilt and shame. </p><p>They also note viewing frequency is not necessarily correlated to relationship or mental health problems. Even a little can trigger negative feelings and psychological distress in those suffering from scrupulosity, while many in the Bible Belt (and beyond) feel no shame, religious or not. </p><p><span></span>--</p><p><em>Stay in touch with Derek on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/derekberes" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DerekBeresdotcom" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="https://derekberes.substack.com/" target="_blank">Substack</a>. His next book is</em> "Hero's Dose: The Case For Psychedelics in Ritual and Therapy."</p>
More rules is not what's going to stop sexual harassment at work, says Johnny C. Taylor, Jr. Change the culture.
- "Too many organizations have tolerated the brilliant jerk. Too many organizations have tolerated the highly profitable sexual harasser or bully," says Johnny C. Taylor, Jr., CEO of the Society for Human Resource Management. At this point in time, more rules is not the answer. The workplace culture must reject harassers.
- When organizations do nothing to stop harassers and have one set of rules for the powerful and one for the powerless, productivity, workplace culture, and morale are affected in ways we can measure, and in insidious, destructive ways that we cannot.
- "Think about it, says Taylor. "Your star performer is known to flirt the line, if not cross the line, with respect to inappropriate workplace behavior. Are you prepared to fire that person, even if it means you may lose a major contract? That's when employees will judge who you are and what this company is really about. They're going to judge you on what you do, not what you say."
A deeper look at what happens in the first 2 years after experiencing sexual trauma.
The content in this article may be triggering to some readers. This article contains discussion around the topics of sexual assault, rape, sexual violence, trauma and PTSD. Please read at your own discretion.
- Between 17-25% of women and 1-3% of men will report an instance of sexual abuse within their lifetime - however, research suggests up to 80% of sexual violence goes unreported, so the number of people who have experienced sexual abuse is much higher than you think.
- A 2004 study takes a look at the psychological healing process sexual abuse survivors experience within the first 21 months after their assault.
- Results of this study prove the decrease in behavioral self-blame that survivors reported feeling within the first 21 months after their attack greatly aided in their recovery.
How common is sexual assault and abuse?<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjgyMTYwNy9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzNzczMzM4NH0.VYjMJKl9uX1qSad6Frzawr-lxXvCyJeRXlKbTrrkYS0/img.jpg?width=980" id="57cfd" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="bc351399cd6ba1bc958e54b10774fa3a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" alt="woman sitting alone on couch sad concept female sexual assault survivor" />
17-25% of American women have reported a sexual assault sometime in their life.
Photo by fizkes on Shutterstock<p>Sexual assault can take many different forms but generally refers to sexual contact that occurs without the explicit consent of the victim. <a href="https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-assault" target="_blank">Some forms of sexual assault</a> include attempted rape, fondling or unwanted sexual touching, forcing a victim to perform sexual acts and penetration of the victim's body (also known as rape).</p><p>According to the nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization <a href="https://www.rainn.org/about-rainn" target="_blank">RAINN</a> (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), the rate of reported sexual assault and rape has decreased by 63% from 1993 (when there were 4.3 sexual assault reports per 1,000 people) to 2016 (when there were 1.2 sexual assault reports per 1,000 people.)</p><p>While some may look at these statistics and think the risk of sexual assault and rape are diminishing, something of note when dealing with sexual assault statistics is that these statistics are only ever representative of reported cases of sexual trauma. </p><p>In reality, these kinds of results only account for sexual assaults that have been reported - and according to the <a href="https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv16.pdf" target="_blank">U.S Department of Justice</a> (2018), an estimated 80% of sexual assaults go unreported.</p><p><strong>RAINN statistics (2016) on sexual violence:<br></strong></p><ul><li>Every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted.</li><li>One out of every six American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. </li><li>About 3% of American men have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. </li></ul><p>Other statistics fall closely in line with these numbers, as you can see <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5576571/" target="_blank">in this 2017 study</a>, where it was reported that around 17-25% of women and around 1-3% of men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.</p>
Surviving sexual abuse: A look at the psychopathology of sexual abuse survivors 21 months after their trauma<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjgyMTYwOC9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMzU2NDc5M30.TcT3OBGeLPnrJ9YavTeCknXoeadtfW2W4UMpY2B2Giw/img.jpg?width=1245&coordinates=0%2C52%2C0%2C52&height=700" id="e67b6" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="42b779c17f0ffaca7a429d12477ec821" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" alt="sad man sitting on couch concept male sexual assault survivor" />
3% of American men have reported sexual assault sometime in their life.
Photo by Sam Wordley on Shutterstock<p>A 2004 study (<a href="https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/2c14/a3e86eba73aef567b1d5fc7d44e1b2200220.pdf" target="_blank">Mary P. Koss </a>and <a href="https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/2c14/a3e86eba73aef567b1d5fc7d44e1b2200220.pdf" target="_blank">Aurelio Jose Figueredo</a>) of the healing process of sexual trauma over the first 21 months proves significant improvements in the psychopathology of sexual abuse survivors.</p><p>During this study, reported rape survivors (59 participants) were assessed four times over the course of 21 months after their sexual trauma. </p><p>Researchers used the "<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Ft10239-000" target="_blank">Rape Attribution Questionnaire</a>", which consists of three 7-item subscales that assess the survivor on the following criteria: Behavioral Self-Blame, Characterological Self-Blame, and External Blame. </p><p>This questionnaire consists of sentences such as <em data-redactor-tag="em">"how often have you thought: I was assaulted because…"</em> with the participants choosing answers that range from 1 (never) to 5 (very often). This questionnaire is used to gauge the psychopathology of the assault survivor based on how they view their traumatic experience.</p><p>The results of the Koss and Figueredo study suggest that many things happen within the first 2 years of a person experiencing sexual trauma…</p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong">Causal attributions: trying to find the "why"...<br></strong>First, uncontrollable and traumatic acts (such as rape) stimulate what is known as "causal attributions", which are defined as our attempts at explaining the situation "rationally".</p><p>This leads survivors of sexual trauma to ask themselves questions such as "why did this happen to me?" and "what could I have done differently?" </p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong">Behavioral Self-Blame increases in the first few months after sexual trauma<br></strong>In the months after the initial trauma, Behavioral Self-Blame increases. Survivors begin to question if there was anything they could have done to prevent the attack and can even begin to place blame on themselves (a common example for women is thinking about what they were wearing, if it was too provocative, if they encouraged the attacker in any way, etc).</p><p>Initially, after an assault, it's common for our body and mind to go into "protective mode", which is often the <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/emotional-numbing-symptoms-2797372" target="_blank">"numb" feeling</a> many people experience after sexual abuse. <span>The increase in behavioral self-blame increases the level of global distress in the survivor, bringing them out of the "numb" mode and oftentimes making their assault feel "real". </span></p><p>This often causes symptoms of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) such as flashbacks and anxiety. </p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong">Characterological Self-Blame increases, which leads to severe spikes in PTSD symptoms<br></strong>Characterological Self-Blame also increases in the initial stages after the sexual trauma, once we have been brought out of the numb mode by the increase of our global distress levels. Survivors begin to wonder if what happened to them was a result of who they are as a person (example, thinking that "bad things happen to bad people".) They start to question who they are as a person and if they deserve what happened to them.</p><p>This increase in characterological self-blame also spikes the global distress of the survivor, leading to more severe PTSD symptoms and can often lead to self-destructive behavior. </p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong">Looking outside ourselves for answers often gives a reason to isolate and "shut down"<br></strong>External blame and maladaptive beliefs form - which can mean the survivor begins to look for blame outside of themselves, often isolating themselves from the society that harmed them. The survivor begins to adapt their beliefs to attempt to understand what happened to them and why.</p><p>In this initial aftermath of sexual trauma, sexual assault survivors may seek to understand the reasons for what happened by blaming external forces (such as their attacker or society as a whole), or they can try to seek answers by turning to internal explanations (often taking their own behaviors and actions into judgment). </p><p><strong data-redactor-tag="strong">21 months after sexual trauma: behavioral and characterological self-blame decrease, driving recovery<br></strong>A 2001 study (<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2002-06641-004" target="_blank">Frazier, Berman & Steward</a>) concluded that Behavioral Self-Blame (example: blaming what we did that night to "provoke" the assault) was consistently associated with more distress among victims of rape or sexual assault.</p><p>However, Characterological Self-Blame (example: blaming who we are for what happened) leads to an ever higher distressing and harmful effect on the survivor's overall health. These causal attributions and the self-blame that many survivors put onto themselves directly influence the severity of their global distress. </p><p>The results of the Koss and Figueredo study prove that while behavioral/characterological self-blame, isolation, and PTSD increase within the initial months after the attack, the decrease in behavioral self-blame that survivors reported feeling within the first 21 months after their attack greatly aided in their recovery. </p>
You are not alone.<p>Psychiatrist <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-yourself/201903/5-reasons-talk-about-trauma" target="_blank">Judith Herman</a> explains why individual and/or group therapy is so helpful to survivors of sexual abuse:<br></p><p><em>"Trauma isolates: The group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes: The group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades: The group restores your sense of humanity."</em></p><p><em></em><strong>Need help? Call 800-656-4673 (HOPE).</strong></p><p>The <a href="https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline" target="_blank">National Sexual Assault Hotline</a> is 100% safe and confidential - when you place your call, only the first 6 numbers of your phone number are used to route the call to a hotline center in your area.</p>
A second step is to determine where violence concentrates and who is most at risk.
Violence has always been one of humanity's most serious global challenges. This is because for most of history, we were natural born killers.
Homicide rates around the world, according to UNODC
Image: UNODC<p>The first step to effectively reducing violence by 2030 is to have a clear sense of how it is distributed in time and space. Take the case of lethal violence. There is a misperception that more people die violently in war zones than in countries at peace. While total levels of violence oscillate from year to year, it turns out that the reverse is true. The UN Office for Drugs and Crime <a href="https://www.unodc.org/unodc/en/frontpage/2019/July/homicide-kills-far-more-people-than-armed-conflict--says-new-unodc-study.html" target="_blank">estimates</a> that the ratio is roughly 5:1. Put simply, many more people are dying violently as a result of organized and interpersonal crime in countries like Brazil, Colombia and Mexico than in internal conflicts in countries such as Afghanistan, Syria and Yemen. This is not to say that one type of lethal violence is more important than the other, but rather to ensure a more fact-based diagnosis.</p><p>A second step is to determine where violence concentrates and who is most at risk. A considerable proportion of all violence - that is, deaths, injuries and extreme violations - is concentrated in cities. These tendencies are likely to increase steadily given the inexorable urbanization of every region on earth. Cities in Latin America and the Caribbean - already one of the world's <a href="https://www.un.org/development/desa/publications/2018-revision-of-world-urbanization-prospects.html" target="_blank">most urbanized regions</a> - feature some of the highest levels of lethal and non-lethal violence. It is home to <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/most-violent-cities-in-the-world-in-2018-2019-3?r=US&IR=T" target="_blank">43 of the world's 50 most violent cities</a>. Meanwhile, most conflict and terrorist-related deaths <a href="https://ourworldindata.org/terrorism" target="_blank">are concentrated in a handful of countries</a> in Central Asia, the African Sahel, North Africa and the Middle East. Irrespective of where it occurs, young males are most at risk of perpetrating or being victimized, although women and girls experience horrific forms of violence ranging from femicide to rape and abuse.</p><p>The third step is to acknowledge the risk factors that give rise to various types of violence. Although violence is multi-factoral, a number of recurring risks stand out. For example, social and economic inequality is high on the list, as are concentrated poverty, rapid unregulated urbanization, a high level of youth unemployment, and weak security and justice institutions that lead to soaring levels of impunity. Other situational factors loom large, including exposure to narcotics and alcohol and the availability of arms. Many of these factors cluster in urban settings, especially in neighbourhoods exhibiting concentrated disadvantage, social disorganization, and low levels of social cohesion.</p><p>If violence is to be genuinely diminished, it is important to acknowledge its many "hidden" forms that are routinely excluded from the international agenda. Some governments are reluctant to discuss them on the grounds that they are considered an internal domestic matter. For example, there are more than <a href="https://www.prisonstudies.org/sites/default/files/resources/downloads/wppl_12.pdf" target="_blank">10 million people in prisons</a> around the world, a significant proportion of whom are in pre-trial detention and living in inhumane conditions. There are also thousands of people who are missing - "disappeared" - not least union leaders, indigenous rights defenders, human rights activists and journalists.</p><p>The only way to make a serious dent in violence is by acknowledging its full scope and scale together with the factors that drive it. This must be accompanied by sustained investment in reducing the risks and improving the protection of affected areas and populations, and investing in solutions with a positive track record. In the US, for example,<a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2019/09/can-thomas-abts-bleeding-out-curb-gun-violence/596164/" target="_blank"> research suggests</a> that a focus on reducing lethal violence in the 40 cities with the highest rates of homicide could save more than 12,000 lives a year. In Latin America, reducing homicide in just the<a href="https://www.foreignaffairs.com/articles/central-america-caribbean/2017-03-22/latin-americas-murder-epidemic" target="_blank"> seven most violent countries over the next 10 years</a> would save more than <a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0bhWlpagweqUXRuVTYtMEVIclhrYXEtVHA3cFh3Q2ljTWJ3/view" target="_blank">365,000 lives</a>.</p>
With targeted interventions, especially in cities, hundreds of thousands of lives each year could be saved
Image: Our World in Data<h3>What are our next steps?</h3><p>First, countries and cities should set out<a href="https://www.americasquarterly.org/content/reducing-homicide-brazil-insights-what-works" target="_blank"> violence reduction plans</a> with clear targets and performance indicators over the next decade. Effective data-harvesting systems to track trends, investment in in-house monitoring and analytical capacities to interpret results, routine supervision, ongoing training and professional development, and constant evaluation are all critical. This requires political leaders who are prepared to plan across electoral cycles and business and civil society champions who are willing to invest time, energy and resources to improve their communities.</p><p>Next, governments need to develop comprehensive approaches to preventing and reducing violence. This means investing in prevention - including the risk factors that give rise to violence. It also means building in peace architectures that can channel grievances non-violently. Ideally, governments can combine specific adaptations in policing practice with prevention and protection measures tailored particularly for at-risk places and people - from young out-of-work males to vulnerable women and children. This requires the creation of partnerships across institutional and bureaucratic silos – between state and city authorities, but also across different public entities. Central to success are strong partnerships with universities, research institutes, and businesses that can help identify evidence-based pathways for improvement.</p><h4>What is the Annual Meeting of the Global Future Councils?</h4><p>Another key ingredient of success is staying power. The most successful interventions take time to have a lasting effect. Consider São Paulo, for example, a city that has registered sharp reductions in its murder rate in recent years. Metropolitan<a href="https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2018/03/violent-crime-in-sao-paulo-has-dropped-dramatically-this-may-be-why/" target="_blank"> São Paulo's homicide rate fell from 49.2 per 100,000 in 2001 to just 5.5 per 100,000</a> between 2001 and 2018, making it one of the safest large cities in Brazil. In 1991, the city of Medellín in Colombia registered a<a href="https://www.citylab.com/equity/2017/11/where-are-the-worlds-most-fragile-cities/546782/" target="_blank"> homicide rate of 381 per 100,000</a>—among the highest ever recorded anywhere. Today it is 21 per 100,000, below that of Detroit, Baltimore or New Orleans. It is challenging to maintain support given electoral cycles and economic volatility, but when interventions are terminated prematurely, the positive effects typically vanish just as quickly.</p><p>It will take unprecedented global partnerships to reduce violence by 50% over the next 10 years. But there are grounds for optimism. For the first time, the UN and World Bank have united behind <a href="https://www.pathwaysforpeace.org/" target="_blank">a common framework</a> for preventing conflict. UN entities such as the Office for Drugs and Crime (UNODC) and the <a href="https://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/en/" target="_blank">World Health Organization (WHO)</a> have made commitments to reduce violence. UN Women has announced a <a href="https://www.un.org/en/spotlight-initiative/" target="_blank">Spotlight Initiative</a> to end violence against women and UNICEF has joined forces with others to advance I<a href="https://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/inspire/en/" target="_blank">NSPIRE strategies</a> to help governments improve safety for all. Another promising initiative is the <a href="https://www.end-violence.org/" target="_blank">global campaign to end violence against children</a>, which has already raised close to $38 million, strengthening the work of 49 partners in at least 37 countries. At the city scale, UN-Habitat is promoting safer cities and a coalition of mayors have launched the <a href="https://www.prnewswire.com/in/news-releases/eleven-cities-and-six-global-partners-around-the-world-pledge-accelerated-actions-towards-the-ambitious-goal-of-halving-urban-violence-by-2030-832787143.html" target="_blank">Peace in Our Cities</a> campaign to localize SDG 16 commitments. Yet much more needs to be done.</p><p>The world has an opportunity to dramatically reduce some of the most egregious forms of violence over the next decade. To do this, we will need the same kind of energy and dedication that was mobilized to eradicate other killers like smallpox. We know what works, and what does not. There is no excuse not to deliver a safer world.</p><p>Reprinted with permission of the <a href="https://www.weforum.org/" target="_blank">World Economic Forum</a>. Read the <a href="https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2019/10/most-forms-of-violence-can-be-halved-by-2030-heres-how/" target="_blank">original article</a>.</p>
Polls never reveal who we really are. Google does.
- In Everybody Lies, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz discusses how Pornhub and Google data provide a window into human sexuality.
- Large, anonymized data sets are more reliable indicators than polling or other traditional methods.
- More people report having sex than actually having sex, Stephens-Davidowitz reports.
You have doppelgängers. They’re quietly influencing your life. | Seth Stephens-Davidowitz<div class="rm-shortcode" data-media_id="El68SVgi" data-player_id="FvQKszTI" data-rm-shortcode-id="3e55fc7e608e56240aed1e62a7be8314"> <div id="botr_El68SVgi_FvQKszTI_div" class="jwplayer-media" data-jwplayer-video-src="https://content.jwplatform.com/players/El68SVgi-FvQKszTI.js"> <img src="https://cdn.jwplayer.com/thumbs/El68SVgi-1920.jpg" class="jwplayer-media-preview" /> </div> <script src="https://content.jwplatform.com/players/El68SVgi-FvQKszTI.js"></script> </div> <p>While he reports frightening data on white nationalism and racism—"n word" queries and Trump voters match up nearly perfectly across the nation—it is our—yes, male and female, though mostly male—fascination with pornography that offers clues to the nature of human sexuality.</p><p>Before continuing, let me state that I take no issue with people's sexual preferences. The point isn't shame; it's curiosity regarding the distance between what we present ourselves to be and who we really are. That said, the increasing numbers of child pornography available online—over <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2019/09/28/us/child-sex-abuse.html" target="_blank">45 million reported cases</a> last year alone—is a serious issue that involves every one of us. Living in a world where this flourishes does not bode well for the future of sexuality and, therefore, the entire race. </p><p>The other reason this is important is to further the cultivation of honesty in relationships. Too many people cheat and lie to their partners; others cannot properly express their desires and therefore feel intimately and sexually unfulfilled, a topic beautifully explored in Daniel Bergner's book, <em>The Other Side of Desire</em>. Opening up about desires can be therapeutic and should not be condemned, but condoned. Ambitious, certainly, though possible. </p><p>Until then we have a massive influx of pornography, which has long been a technological driver. It pushed forward the development of the camera. It is one of the reasons that <a href="https://www.thrillist.com/vice/how-porn-influenced-technology-8-ways-porn-influenced-tech-supercompressor-com" target="_blank">VHS crushed Betamax</a>, as well as an influence behind the mass adoption of the internet. Even still, many won't fess up. Stephens-Davidowitz writes that more people search for "porn" than they do "weather" even though only one-quarter of men and 8 percent of women admit to it. </p><p>Old school ideology from Alfred Kinsey states that 10 percent of American men are gay. Surveys believe the number is between 2-3 percent. Using a wealth of Facebook data, including location information spread across more tolerant and less tolerant states, Stephens-Davidowitz states that the number is closer to 5 percent, not including closeted homosexuals. </p><p>Women are 10 percent more likely to search on Google for "Is my husband gay?" than "Is my husband cheating?" Women wonder if their husband is gay eight times more than if he's an alcoholic and ten times more than if he suffers from depression. The states where this question is most asked are South Carolina and Louisiana.<br></p><p>Speaking of female sexuality, 20 percent of all videos watched by women on Pornhub show lesbian scenes.</p>
Seth Stephens-Davidowitz pauses to have his portrait taken while he works on his elections predictions at his apartment.
Photo by Kayana Szymczak for The Boston Globe via Getty Images<p>On the animated show, "Big Mouth," Missy loves humping stuffed animals. There is precedent: while it's not a particularly popular search on Pornhub, women do look for such videos.</p><p>Twenty-five percent of female searches involving heterosexual porn on Pornhub involve pain and/or humiliation. Five percent search for nonconsensual sex. Women are twice as likely to search for these topics as men. As Stephens-Davidowitz points out, we should differentiate between fantasy and reality when considering such searches. Still, data don't lie. </p><p>Using Google data, it turns out that searching why a partner doesn't want sex is sixteen times more popular than a partner unwilling to talk. With unmarried partners, not wanting sex is five-and-a-half times more popular than not texting back. Women are twice as likely to search for boyfriends not wanting sex than the reverse. </p><p>Men Google about penis size more than all other body parts combined. Women rarely look it up. In fact, for every one woman that searches, 170 men enter it into the search field. Even then, 40 percent of women complain that it's too big. Yet only 1 percent of men seek information on how to make it smaller. </p><p>Men disproportionally ask how to make sex longer. Women search for making their partner climax quicker as much as they want to stretch out the experience. </p><p>For women, breast size is a much more common search: seven million breast implant queries a year. When it comes to their behind, until 2014 the searches always dealt with making it smaller. In 2014, that switched: in every state, women searched for a bigger behind more often. </p><p>The number one search for women and men when dealing with female genitalia concerns smell. </p><p>Finally, what turned out to be one of Stephen-Davidowitz's favorite pieces of data, and one that does not fly in the face of convention but rather confirms it: </p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Men make as many searches looking for ways to perform oral sex on themselves as they do how to give a woman an orgasm."</p><p>--</p><p><em>Stay in touch with Derek on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/derekberes" target="_blank">Twitter</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DerekBeresdotcom" target="_blank">Facebook</a>.</em> </p>