6 signs you’re in an emotionally strong relationship
These powerful habits from six powerful people are worth taking to heart.
One of the most important yet underappreciated parts of a happy, fulfilling relationship is emotional strength — but what does that really mean? Research shows that emotional strength primarily comes down to maintaining a healthy perspective, a trait that's ever more important within the context of romantic relationships, where opportunities for miscommunication and unhealthy habits can be plentiful.
These six celebrities offer insightful lessons on emotional strength that we can all apply to our own relationships. Read on to gain a stronger perspective and greater resilience.
George Clooney keeps a humble perspective
Reformed bachelor George Clooney has been quoted in Harper's Bazaar Arabia on how he doesn't let his marriage to human rights attorney Amal Clooney go to his head. "I don't think of us as a power couple, because I don't know what that means. I think we're just a couple with a great interest in the human condition. I don't think of that as particularly powerful; I just think of it as our responsibility as people on the planet." Considering how easy it is to become swept up in a sense of invincibility — especially in the emotional highs of a new relationship — this framing is a reality check we could all use.
Denise Richards embraces positive lessons from her divorce
Actress and model Denise Richards recently opened up to People about the unexpected upsides of her turbulent divorce from Charlie Sheen. "I was never bitter about my divorce. Going through everything, it changed me. But I love life and I'm a glass-half-full kind of person. And I did my best to rise above it." This resilience led to her happily remarrying actor Aaron Phypers, though still with Sheen as a part of her life — an amicable dynamic reminiscent of recent news about Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos. "No matter what happens, Charlie can call me at any point. I don't see our relationship as a failure. It's a journey. It went a different way than we anticipated, but that's okay. And I will always be a good friend to him."
Priyanka Chopra Jonas stays true to her own identity
In conversation with Jimmy Fallon on "The Tonight Show," Chopra shared what went into her decision to take the last name of her husband, Nick Jonas. "I always wanted to add his name to mine, because I feel like we're becoming family — I'm a little traditional and old school like that. But I don't take away my identity. He gets added to who I am." Her emotionally mature perspective is a compelling case study in acknowledging the new shared identity that a marriage brings, without letting it consuming her own sense of agency.
Neil Patrick Harris stays steady through highs and lows
There's a lot of value to unpack from this dual op-ed from Neil Patrick Harris and his husband, actor and chef David Burtka, in Out, but one of NPH's most impactful thoughts is on keeping a marriage strong and healthy through the inevitable dark patches. "I don't want to paint our relationship like we met and it's been happy family fantastic-ness ever since. What defines a relationship is the work that's involved to maintain it, and it's constantly changing. Sometimes I'm deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it's going to work out and is meant to be. It's like a business relationship, as well as a personal one; we have a business together and that's maintaining our love for one another," he said.
Gina Rodriguez lets her own light shine
The "Jane the Virgin" star revealed in Cosmopolitan a paradigm shift in how she approaches her relationship with her fiancé, actor Joe LoCicero. "Dating Joe was a new experience for me because I put myself first. For so long, I put every man in front of me. As a successful woman, it is so hard because of our cultural norms that the man has to be the breadwinner! And the man has to be the more powerful one. It was so difficult for me to find a man who didn't want me to dim my light for his ego." Her candid journey in shifting this deeply ingrained mindset is bound to inspire so many women who feel held back in their own relationships.
Karlie Kloss has a strong foundation from which to thrive
Model Karlie Kloss reflects on how her marriage to Joshua Kushner feels like "home base" in Elite Daily. "I'm sure everyone is juggling 10 things that you wouldn't even realize," she continued. "For me, like every woman, [I'm] just figuring out how to continue to grow my career and balance my personal and professional life. I feel really grateful that I have a partner, my husband, who's an incredible support to me and wants to help me accomplish my dreams no matter what they are." This sense of comfort, trust, and rootedness is a hallmark of an emotionally strong relationship, and one that allows us to truly thrive.
Former president of the ACLU Nadine Strossen discusses whether our society should always defend free speech rights, even for groups who would oppose such rights.
- Former ACLU president Nadine Strossen understands that protecting free speech rights isn't always a straightforward proposition.
- In this video, Strossen describes the reasoning behind why the ACLU defended the free speech rights of neo-Nazis in Skokie, Illinois, 1977.
- The opinions expressed in this video do not necessarily reflect the views of the Charles Koch Foundation, which encourages the expression of diverse viewpoints within a culture of civil discourse and mutual respect.
Tap into the "Rest and Digest" System to Achieve Your Goals
- In the fast-paced workplaces and productivity-focused societies many of us inhabit today, it is easy to burnout.
- Emma Seppälä, a Stanford researcher on human happiness, recommends tapping into the parasympathetic nervous system instead—"rest and digest"rather than "fight or flight."
- Aiming for energy management rather than time management will give you the resilience you need to excel at the things that really matter in your life and career, rather than living "mostly off" by attempting to seem "always on."
Steve Wozniak doesn't know if his phone is listening, but he's minimizing risks.
- Steve Wozniak didn't hold back his feelings about the social media giant when stopped at an airport.
- The Apple co-founder admitted that devices spying on his conversations is worrisome.
- Wozniak deleted his Facebook account last year, recommending that "most people" should do the same.
When it comes to sniffing out whether a source is credible or not, even journalists can sometimes take the wrong approach.
- We all think that we're competent consumers of news media, but the research shows that even journalists struggle with identifying fact from fiction.
- When judging whether a piece of media is true or not, most of us focus too much on the source itself. Knowledge has a context, and it's important to look at that context when trying to validate a source.