Recognizing that you married a sinner.
Question: What is love?
Warren: How would I describe love? Seeking the other’s best interest. It . . . it truly is about how can I meet . . . how can I meet your needs? How can I make life better? How can I create a home and a relationship where you feel nurtured? Where you feel valued? Where you feel appreciated? Where each is more willing to give than take? I think it’s a mistake when people talk about 50/50 – you know the relationship should be 50/50 – because that’s really a recipe for disaster. Because you’re always wondering, “Have you given as much as I’ve given?” And that’s . . . You start keeping score. You start noticing where the other person has failed you, where they’ve disappointed you. And the fact is Rick disappoints me. I disappoint him. I have failed him. He has failed me. It’s inevitable. We are broken people. All of us are. And starting with that recognition, somebody said, “You marry a sinner.” So when you let go of those expectations of the other person having to be perfect; always understand what you want; always think of you; but instead being willing to look at it from the aspect of, “How can I . . . how can I serve you? When both people are working off of that premise, I think a marriage has all the chances in the world of lasting until that “death do you part”.
Recorded on: 12/11/07