How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal Is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory

Perhaps you’re thinking you don’t know any non-monogamous people. But I wouldn’t be too sure.

Young people stand next to a fence decorated with so-called 'Liebesschloesser' (love padlocks) at the Hohenzollernbruecke bridge in Cologne, Germany. Photo credit: PATRIK STOLLARZ/AFP/Getty Images

There’s no longer anything unusual about wanting an open relationship. Many who consider themselves progressive about sex, gender, love and relationships know this. It’s just that almost nobody in an open relationship wants to be open about it. What’s surprising is that so many people feel the need for secrecy.

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Scientists Suspect Genetic Underpinnings to Human Monogamy

A groundbreaking study from a Harvard University team suggests that monogamy may be genetically programmed within some mammals.

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Evolutionary anthropology has for some time tried to understand what natural relationship pattern humans follow, if there is one. In his book Sex at Dawn psychologist Christopher Ryan posits that our prehistoric ancestors practiced multiple kinds of sexual and romantic relationships.

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Men who have tattoos think it impresses women. Study finds it doesn’t.

One reason: women perceive men with tattoos as more likely to cheat. 

 

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Most of us are aware that women, at least on some level, are attracted to the “bad boy." Evolutionary anthropologists tell us this is because a woman in the Stone Age competed for the attention of a male who could protect her and their young, and provide for them. Today however, society has changed. And in fact, many times it is the sociable and intellectual male who turns out to be the best provider, while those who are aggressive, rebellious, and uncompromising, often have a tougher time. Many women date the rebellious archetype in their teen or young adult years, usually thinking they can change him, only to end up with a broken heart. According to this new study, that experience might be a steep learning curve.

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What the Length of Your Fingers Say About Your Personality

Your ring-to-index finger ratio can tell a lot about what you’re good at and even what mental disorders you are prone to. 

 

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The eyes may be the window to the soul, but the hands can tell you a lot about a person too. Whether they are calloused for instance, or cotton soft. The fingers in particular can give you further insights. A collaborative study conducted by Oxford and Northumbria researchers in the UK, found that differences in the lengths of certain fingers indicated whether a person tended to be more promiscuous or monogamous by nature. The secret lies with the ring finger in comparison to the index.

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