Most People Have Mixed Feelings About Breaking Up Just Before They Do It

A new study shows that most people are surprisingly ambivalent about their decision to break up with their partner — even right before they do it.

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The old question Should I stay or should I go now is apparently a more common conundrum than you might expect.

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Hope Together: How One Partner's Belief in Good Outcomes Affects the Relationship

Pregnancy is proving to be a crucial time to study the effects of hope and optimism within a relationship.

"The smallest indivisible human unit is two people, not one," wrote Pulitzer Prize-winner Tony Kushner, and Professor Eshkol Rafaeli and his team at the Affect and Relationships Lab at Bar-Ilan University have taken that to heart. Funded by the Hope & Optimism initiative, they have been investigating how hope functions in a couple—or a 'dyad', the most romantic term of all—especially as a dyad becomes a triad. Their research focuses on the emotional and mental health of couples having their first child, as it's a major life transition. So does hope fluctuate? Is it contagious? Must both be hopeful, or is one optimist enough to carry everyone through? Here, Rafaeli discusses his team's findings, and future work. This video was filmed as part of the Los Angeles Hope Festival, a collaboration between Big Think and Hope & Optimism.

There's a "magic ratio" for how often happy couples argue

Dr. Gottman, a psychologist who studies relationships, explains the 5:1 rule.

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Everyone knows couples break up when they fight too much. But what if they don't fight enough?

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