What Harshes John Buffalo Mailer's Mellow

Question: What harshes\r\nyour mellow?


John Buffalo Mailer: \r\n What harshes my mellow?  Well I just had a\r\n movie that was set\r\nand ready to go with amazing stars and an amazing director and an \r\namazing\r\nproducer and everyone and, because of a technicality unfortunately the \r\nwhole\r\nthing just fell apart.  That\r\nharshed my mellow a little bit. \r\nBut again, you know if you’re going to go into the movie business\r\n it is\r\nso full of heartbreak and you get so close and it doesn’t happen and \r\nthen once\r\nin a while it works out and it is the fantasy, like it is that dream.  So riding the highs and lows of it\r\nyou got to have an iron constitution and you got to be able to do what \r\nDavid\r\nDinkins actually one said—who, you know, who was a mayor of New York \r\nback in the early '90s, late '80s, and had a rough time. \r\nYou know, one day after another it was something and actually my \r\nfather\r\nwas talking to him and he said, “So you know, Mr. Dinkins, how do you \r\nnavigate\r\nit all?”  And he said, “Well you\r\nknow some days are good, some days are bad, but anytime there is a bad \r\nday I\r\nknow the next day is going to be good and vice versa, so you just can’t \r\nput too\r\nmuch stock in that moment.”  I\r\nthink that ultimately when life is not tragedy it should be a party and \r\nif\r\nyou’ve faced the real stuff, if you’ve faced the ones closest to you \r\nbeing at\r\ndeath’s door, passing on, you know, not to let the small stuff really \r\nharsh\r\nyour mellow, as you put it.

Recorded March 30, 2010
Interviewed by Austin Allen

Life is full of heartbreak, but the actor and former High Times editor tries not to sweat the small stuff.

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