The Power of Not Knowing

Dan Savage: I've often felt it’s very empowering to acknowledge what you don’t know.

Humility in the face of the unknown - that was my experience growing up gay and as a Catholic. 

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Face it: Sex is in Charge of You

Sex existed on this planet hundreds of millions of years before homo sapiens came along and it will exist long after we’re gone and sex runs our lives. 

The most common misconception about sex is everyone thinks that they’re in charge of sex when sex is in charge of you. 

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I Came Out for the Same Reason Everyone Comes Out

The anticipated pain and the fear of what might happen by coming out is less scary than a life in the closet. 

The anticipated pain and the fear of what might happen by coming out is less scary than a life in the closet.  Eventually you realize that a closeted life is going to be more painful and unpleasant than whatever the worst possible consequences could be of coming out. 

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Ignore the BS in the Bible

If the Bible got slavery wrong, something as easy and obvious, a moral outrage, the odds that the Bible got something as complicated as human sexuality wrong is pretty high.

We ignore the bullshit in the Bible about race, about slavery.  We ignore the bullshit in the Bible about women.  We ignore the bullshit in the Bible about women should be killed on their wedding nights if they’re not virgins, that parents have a right to murder their disobedient children. 

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