How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal Is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory

Perhaps you’re thinking you don’t know any non-monogamous people. But I wouldn’t be too sure.

Young people stand next to a fence decorated with so-called 'Liebesschloesser' (love padlocks) at the Hohenzollernbruecke bridge in Cologne, Germany. Photo credit: PATRIK STOLLARZ/AFP/Getty Images

There’s no longer anything unusual about wanting an open relationship. Many who consider themselves progressive about sex, gender, love and relationships know this. It’s just that almost nobody in an open relationship wants to be open about it. What’s surprising is that so many people feel the need for secrecy.

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