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The Difference Between Sex and Gender

There can be transgendered men who desire other men.  There can be transgendered men who desire women.  There can be transgendered women who like lesbians or who like heterosexual men or who like both or don’t like either. So in a way we can’t draw conclusions on the basis of gender, gender presentation in particular, about what a person’s sexuality might be. 

A man who reads effeminate may well be consistently heterosexual and another one might be gay.  We can’t read sexuality off of gender.  We can’t derive sexuality from gender.  At the same time it seems to me that if we are to understand how gender normativity works we have to understand pretty clearly that there are men who really want to know that is a woman and that is a man because they want to make sure they only sleep with women or that they’re only attracted to women or that their heterosexuality isn’t unsettled by somebody’s ambiguous gender presentation and there are women who want to know that their heterosexuality is secure, that there is nothing about them that is particularly masculine and that they are discretely feminine in order to be discretely heterosexual and that anxiety can actually produce some pretty violent consequences:  “I am not a homosexual.  I don’t like homosexuals.  I think homosexuality should be outlawed.  I don’t think homosexuals should get married.” 

We have a number of kinds of highly reactionary views that I think are based in that anxiety and even ways of thinking about the AIDS crisis, for instance, in which people thought homosexuals died disproportionately in that crisis and it’s their own fault and so if they died, it doesn’t matter, they weren’t living a life worth living.

I think we won’t be able to understand the operations of trans-phobia, homophobia, if we don’t understand how certain kinds of links are forged between gender and sexuality in the minds of those who want masculinity to be absolutely separate from femininity and heterosexuality to be absolutely separate from homosexuality.  

In Their Own Words is recorded in Big Think's studio.

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