How can you really tell one from the other? Note: infatuation is not always before you get together with someone. It can go on well into the relationship. I have seen this happen many times before, and couples who had been together for years before either of them knew that they did not really love each other. Also note: Infatuation is not always a bad thing. It just becomes a problem when you confuse it with love and will not be convinced otherwise.
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Ar Su on January 16, 2008, 7:26 PM
I don’t exactly think the two should be separated. The way I have always looked at it, is that infatuation is that great rush you feel when you meet that special person and you experience various things with him/her. But as that feeling starts to fade, I think you start to grow attached to that person…and that, IMO, is when true love starts.
Of course there is other factors to consider, but if all those are “checked”, I don’t think that a couple should break up due to the lack of that rush that infatuation gives.
Brittni S on January 16, 2008, 8:49 PM
hmm, i have never thought of it from that perspective. Thats interesting.
Michael Kelly on February 13, 2008, 7:44 AM
The bigger issue is love and addiction. That can be a dangerous mix up.
Geneva Lorraine Fiore on February 24, 2008, 2:00 PM
Necro, I agree with you mostly. However, I think if it really is true and real love then that feeling of infatuation will never quite go away.
Suzan M on May 16, 2008, 9:28 AM
Infatuation is based in our own fantasies of who someone else might be. It is merely a feeling (most ephemeral) and projection of ourselves onto someone else illustrated by the common occurrence of the feeling happening long before we really know anything at all of the other person. Infatuation is more akin to entertainment.
True love is an act… that of being able to put one’s own needs and desires second to someone else’s and proceed in our actions based on that. It is a challenge to human nature. True love is something that expands us and makes us better human beings.
Only when infatuation has dissolved away and you are willing to love someone knowing them as they truly are … often despite that knowledge … can you know true love.
Rachele Antenucci on July 10, 2008, 12:39 PM
Love is when you want to have a life long relationship or friendship with someone. Love is when you care what happens to them. I don’t think it necessarily has to be a sexual relationship.
Being infatuated with someone’s physical appearance is shallow and I could not imagine spending days/months/years with a pretty boy from the gym that talks incessantly of his work out regime, diet, and nothing else (= personality of a loaf of bread). Boring!
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