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While talking about some of the feelings that people have across the country about secession; a theme and camps seamed to develop; and someone stated openly,

' Deviancy is a difference that is morally repugnant to the majority. It really has no inherent value in itself.'

The following is my reply;

We All are contradictory in nature; on one hand we desire "normality" and at the same time we like "novelty". We shape ourselves to fit into our societies, and when the society is too repressive/oppressive, we push and pull at the boundaries of "acceptable" behavior (appearance, etc). This is the 'creative contradiction'.

"That man (or woman) is a creature that needs order yet yearns for change is the creative contradiction at the heart of the laws which structure his (or her) conformity and define his (or her) deviancy" - Freda Adler

There are many theories regarding deviancy. Not just "formal" and "informal". There is also a very basic statistical deviancy. Being physically deformed is a type of "deviancy" in that it deviates from the "norm", but we don't often think of it in terms of "deviancy"; although the physically deformed are often treated the same as a "behavioral deviant". There is also "antagonistic" deviancy, where the social norms are "wrong" or too narrow; the Stonewall Riots are a good example of "antagonistic deviancy".

"Labeling theory" is the idea that once society "labels" a type of behavior or a person as deviant, individuals identify with the label and it becomes a "self-fulfilling prophecy". There is also a Marxist social control theory; which states that the "dominant culture" uses the stigma of deviancy to stay in power. "Differential association" places the origin of deviancy with association; that the friends we have around us are what stimulate the desire for deviancy; "peer pressure", "learned behavior" etc.

Primal is change, completely and unfortunately suppressed by civilization.

Deviancy is a purposeful act of rebellion to stretch the boundaries of "social norms".

Many of us are creative yet not informal nor informal deviants.

Creativity is the foundation of change and is what makes the world a better place to live. If it weren't for creative people, we would still be living in caves. Humans are always looking for ways to make things simpler, easier and more comfortable; as we all heard this saying: necessity is the mother of all invention. Creativity is part of all nature, it's secrets make us a cut above other animals.

The "dominant culture" uses the stigma of deviancy to stay in power. I think our academic (and I suppose religious....heck thats where true psychology started) institutions have defined deviancy and it is here to stay.

  Are 'we' to accept that change can be held back with a 'label'?

Our home reflects who we are. It embodies our thoughts and values. The cumulation of our choices. There are few other decisions for which people work for decades - sometimes spending more money on a house than themselves or their families. Thoughtful is not hate of capitalistic success. On the contrary. Thoughtful is only enabled if we are industrious and enterprising. Thoughtful is not careless or slothful. Nor retreat. It requires us to be bold and determined. It is one of our greatest challenges. Just as we often may not understand how our homes work, we may not understand why we choose. We may not have bothered to look. Or perhaps we dare not look. We do it because everyone else does it. We do it because someone else expects it - at least, that's what we suspect. And just as we may not understand why we choose, they also may not understand why they expect. Or why do they do the same things. By examining, we see the effects. We see how things can improve. By choosing, we can act differently. The choice is ours: do no harm. Or not. By understanding what we need, we can achieve. Otherwise, we'll never achieve. And even if we do, we won't realize and just keep going - and always wonder where we are. By understanding what we need, we know when to stop. And if we act further, our words and actions should enable others to improve their lives. Only by focusing ourselves to deliver forever greater improvements in people's lives, ie. real value, can we achieve enduring success. Respect and esteem are achieved, not through houses and cars, but by magnanimity and compassion. The rest is baubles and trinkets. And people yelling on street corners, waving their arms. Simple, frugal and thoughtful. This is only achieved through true strength. "We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty." ---Mother Theresa

Some time ago someone raised the question of whether things like Remembrance Day , Memorial Day,Veterans Day or even Anzac Day should be quietly put to rest because they appeared to give war a mystique and aura of glory to the young.

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