Want to gain social status? Be certain in your judgments, whether or not you are qualified to make them. Want to rise to the top? Assess yourself to be more skilled than you actually are. And here’s the kicker: new research suggests that even when your guarantees turn out to be wrong and your bold decisions result in unmitigated disasters, you will still gain respect and influence. I spoke with Matthew Hutson, science writer and author of “The 7 Laws of Magical Thinking: How Irrational Beliefs Keep Us Happy, Healthy, and Sane,” to find out why overconfident people reap elevated social status—and if a blowhard backlash is ever coming.
“To a single woman, a lifetime of weddings can begin to seem like a nuptial-themed Groundhog Day; we guests behaving slightly differently each time within the same basic framework,” writes Jen Doll in her new memoir Save the Date: The Occasional Mortifications of a Serial Wedding Guest. Doll will be the first to admit that her behavior as a serial wedding goer has fallen under every conceivable category — good, bad and ugly. But through the total sum of these experiences, or “societal, photographic special days” as she calls them, she gained an understanding of the way modern weddings have become a staging area for self-definition.
Pitching 1,807 innings against the most feared hitters on the planet, including Ken Griffey Jr., Barry Bonds, and Cal Ripken Jr., is no easy feat. It takes as much mental fortitude as it does physical strength. Former All-Star righty Bob Tewksbury knows this first hand, hurling all those pitches over his 13 years on a major league pitching mound.
What we can glean from success in the sports world.
In part four of my five-part interview series with Bob Tewksbury, the new director of player development for the Major League Baseball Players Association, as well as retired major league pitcher and former mental skills coach for the Boston Red Sox, he explains why effort is required to succeed, but too much effort can lead to disaster.
Born and raised in the White Mountains of New Hampshire, the road has taken me to London, New York, Los Angeles and other locales that fire up the imagination. I’m the co-author of Marathon Man (St. Martin’s Press, 2013), the new memoir from running legend Bill Rodgers.
I’m also the co-author of New York Jets Hall of Famer Don Maynard’s memoir,You Can’t Catch Sunshine (Triumph Books, 2010) and the writer of Then Madden Said To Summerall: The Best NFL Stories Ever Told (Triumph Books, 2009).
I’ve interviewed countless celebrities, including Adrian Grenier, Jonah Hill, Roger Waters, Guy Pearce, Rose McGowan, Jonathan Demme, Jerry Rice, Stephen Frears, Teresa Palmer, Justin Townes Earle, Method Man, Phil Simms, Two Door Cinema Club, Sherri Shepherd, The Pains of Being Pure at Heart, Ari Graynor, Joe Namath, Blues Traveler, Derek Luke, Alexis Krauss of Sleigh Bells and more.
I’ve written for the New York Post, Playboy, Esquire, New York Magazine, Los Angeles Times, Black Book Magazine, Time Out New York, Gawker, The Village Voice, and more. I contributed Best Film Deaths to the pop culture book, The Enlightened Bracketologist: The Final Four of Everything (Bloomsbury, 2007). I’ve been interviewed by New York Times, New York Post, ESPN radio, NPR and more.
I’ve worked on high-level content/branding projects for Transcend, Velocidi, Egg Design, and others. At the core of my work is the strategizing and creating of compelling branded content across different mediums. Clients have includedTranscend (B2B), Phillips (Consumer Product), Cybex (Lifestyle), Medidata(Pharma/SaaS), TRA Global (Tech) and La Prairie (Beauty).
When my fingers are not dancing on the keyboard, I enjoy music (my favorites of 2013: Aloe Blacc, Arcade Fire, James Blake, Basia Bulat, Johnny Marr), films (my favorites of 2013: Her, Nebraska, The Spectacular Now, Side Effects, Stories We Tell, Big Star: Nothing Can Hurt Me), skiing, taking in a baseball game, rafting on the Ramapo River with friends, and winding late-night conversations.