6 signs you’re in an emotionally strong relationship
These powerful habits from six powerful people are worth taking to heart.
One of the most important yet underappreciated parts of a happy, fulfilling relationship is emotional strength — but what does that really mean? Research shows that emotional strength primarily comes down to maintaining a healthy perspective, a trait that's ever more important within the context of romantic relationships, where opportunities for miscommunication and unhealthy habits can be plentiful.
These six celebrities offer insightful lessons on emotional strength that we can all apply to our own relationships. Read on to gain a stronger perspective and greater resilience.
George Clooney keeps a humble perspective
Reformed bachelor George Clooney has been quoted in Harper's Bazaar Arabia on how he doesn't let his marriage to human rights attorney Amal Clooney go to his head. "I don't think of us as a power couple, because I don't know what that means. I think we're just a couple with a great interest in the human condition. I don't think of that as particularly powerful; I just think of it as our responsibility as people on the planet." Considering how easy it is to become swept up in a sense of invincibility — especially in the emotional highs of a new relationship — this framing is a reality check we could all use.
Denise Richards embraces positive lessons from her divorce
Actress and model Denise Richards recently opened up to People about the unexpected upsides of her turbulent divorce from Charlie Sheen. "I was never bitter about my divorce. Going through everything, it changed me. But I love life and I'm a glass-half-full kind of person. And I did my best to rise above it." This resilience led to her happily remarrying actor Aaron Phypers, though still with Sheen as a part of her life — an amicable dynamic reminiscent of recent news about Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos. "No matter what happens, Charlie can call me at any point. I don't see our relationship as a failure. It's a journey. It went a different way than we anticipated, but that's okay. And I will always be a good friend to him."
Priyanka Chopra Jonas stays true to her own identity
In conversation with Jimmy Fallon on "The Tonight Show," Chopra shared what went into her decision to take the last name of her husband, Nick Jonas. "I always wanted to add his name to mine, because I feel like we're becoming family — I'm a little traditional and old school like that. But I don't take away my identity. He gets added to who I am." Her emotionally mature perspective is a compelling case study in acknowledging the new shared identity that a marriage brings, without letting it consuming her own sense of agency.
Neil Patrick Harris stays steady through highs and lows
There's a lot of value to unpack from this dual op-ed from Neil Patrick Harris and his husband, actor and chef David Burtka, in Out, but one of NPH's most impactful thoughts is on keeping a marriage strong and healthy through the inevitable dark patches. "I don't want to paint our relationship like we met and it's been happy family fantastic-ness ever since. What defines a relationship is the work that's involved to maintain it, and it's constantly changing. Sometimes I'm deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it's going to work out and is meant to be. It's like a business relationship, as well as a personal one; we have a business together and that's maintaining our love for one another," he said.
Gina Rodriguez lets her own light shine
The "Jane the Virgin" star revealed in Cosmopolitan a paradigm shift in how she approaches her relationship with her fiancé, actor Joe LoCicero. "Dating Joe was a new experience for me because I put myself first. For so long, I put every man in front of me. As a successful woman, it is so hard because of our cultural norms that the man has to be the breadwinner! And the man has to be the more powerful one. It was so difficult for me to find a man who didn't want me to dim my light for his ego." Her candid journey in shifting this deeply ingrained mindset is bound to inspire so many women who feel held back in their own relationships.
Karlie Kloss has a strong foundation from which to thrive
Model Karlie Kloss reflects on how her marriage to Joshua Kushner feels like "home base" in Elite Daily. "I'm sure everyone is juggling 10 things that you wouldn't even realize," she continued. "For me, like every woman, [I'm] just figuring out how to continue to grow my career and balance my personal and professional life. I feel really grateful that I have a partner, my husband, who's an incredible support to me and wants to help me accomplish my dreams no matter what they are." This sense of comfort, trust, and rootedness is a hallmark of an emotionally strong relationship, and one that allows us to truly thrive.
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The 21st century is experiencing an Asianization of politics, business, and culture.
- Our theories about the world, even about history or the geopolitics of the present, tend to be shaped by Anglo perspectives of the Western industrial democracies, particularly those in the United States and the United Kingdom.
- The West, however, is not united. Canada, for instance, acts in many ways that are not in line with American or British policies, particularly in regard to populism. Even if it were united, though, it would not represent most of the world's population.
- European ideas, such as parliamentary democracy and civil service, spread across the world in the 19th century. In the 20th century, American values such as entrepreneurialism went global. In the 21st century, however, what we're seeing now is an Asianization — an Asian confidence that they can determine their own political systems, their own models, and adapt to their own circumstances.
Research has shown that men today have less testosterone than they used to. What's happening?
- Several studies have confirmed that testosterone counts in men are lower than what they used to be just a few decades ago.
- While most men still have perfectly healthy testosterone levels, its reduction puts men at risk for many negative health outcomes.
- The cause of this drop in testosterone isn't entirely clear, but evidence suggests that it is a multifaceted result of modern, industrialized life.
Can sensitive coral reefs survive another human generation?
- Coral reefs may not be able to survive another human decade because of the environmental stress we have placed on them, says author David Wallace-Wells. He posits that without meaningful changes to policies, the trend of them dying out, even in light of recent advances, will continue.
- The World Wildlife Fund says that 60 percent of all vertebrate mammals have died since just 1970. On top of this, recent studies suggest that insect populations may have fallen by as much as 75 percent over the last few decades.
- If it were not for our oceans, the planet would probably be already several degrees warmer than it is today due to the emissions we've expelled into the atmosphere.
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