Secrets of success?

The secrets to a successful life? Wow. I'm hesitant to put myself anywhere\nnear the top of that list. But since Pete\nReilly tagged me, I'll share a few things that seem to be working pretty\nwell for me right now...

  1. Persistence. Over time, water, ice, and wind created the\nGrand Canyon. I try to be that persistent on matters that matter.
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  3. Patience. Of course persistence requires patience and the\nability to hold a long-term goal in my head for, well, a long term. I also work\nvery hard to remain calm when life, people, and other bumps in the road occur.\nIt's a lot less stressful when I can say, "Let it flow over you. Be patient. It\nwill all be fine in the end."
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  5. Finding something I care about. Once I've identified\nsomething I care about deeply, I try not to let anything or anyone stop me from\ndoing it. If it requires ignoring people, taking a new job, moving to a new\nplace, so be it. Excellence requires passion.
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  7. Listening. Genuine listening - truly being in the moment\nwith people and hearing what they have to tell you - is extremely powerful.
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  9. Good cheer. I'm an optimist. I'm happy. I try to have a\nsmile on my face as much as possible. People like happy people. I like being a\nhappy person. I strongly believe in the power of personal choice. It's not the\nsituation; it's how we respond to the situation that dictates our\nhappiness.
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  11. Joy in little things. Children's giggles. A crisp sunny\nwinter morning. A positive blog comment. The twinkle in my wife's eye. I make it\na point to find the joy in little things. The accumulation of a multitude of\nlittle delights sustains me when more challenging times arise.
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  13. Spending time around little children. I'm a huge advocate\nof spending as much time around 2– to 9–year-olds as possible. Their laughter is\ninfectious, their joy de vivre is catching. Preschools and elementary\nschools are happy places. Soak in the joy.
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  15. Technology helps. Spreadsheets, a shared online calendar\nwith my wife, mail merge, the ability to type fast, etc. I wouldn't be nearly as\nproductive without my mastery of some basic technology skills. I am both more\neffective and efficient because of digital technologies.
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  17. Keep it simple. Simplicity helps bring clarity. For\nexample, we have only two family rules for our kids: be nice and be safe. So far\nwe haven't come across anything that doesn't fall under one of those\ntwo.

Thanks\nfor the invite, Pete. I hope this is what you were looking for. Although I\ntypically don't forward these kind of things along, in this instance I'll tag a\nfew folks to hear what they might have to say. FYI, this meme\nstarted here.


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