How to have better conversations and get your relationships moving forward

  • Uncomfortable conversations are often much more uncomfortable than they need to be because of how we handle them. If we approach them with dread, we're more likely to beat around the bush. And the more we do that, the more awkward they become.
  • A better approach is to declare your intent right from the start. Let the other person know exactly what you're there to discuss. Be vulnerable about what you don't know—how exactly to handle it, for example, or what the outcome will be. If you start with honesty, the other person will lower their defenses somewhat, and the conversation will be a thousand times more productive.