In my thought the only thing that is itself is The Self. For me this is tied to the Tao, but to others it may be something diffrent. For everything there is an opposite, it sounds simple but for a lampost there is everything that is not the lampost. I guess what I think, What I am trying to articulate, is that the only thing that exsist is the space between breaths. The self that is there in absence of everything else.