Whenever a circle of friends gets smaller ,we feel we have failed in a tiny way.
To keep the friendships growing we are mindful of not stepping too hard on people's beliefs and dreams because we know these things are integral to themselves and their inner comfort.
So with in a circle of acquaintances ( work, business…); arguments usually stay on a civilized level by common agreement. [self discipline?] Does this make us a passionless people?
Would the world have to be a passionless place to have world peace?
Absolutely not! Peace is not necessarily our natural condition, and we must work diligently and passionately to achieve it. It takes a real effort to tolerate someones actions that we do not agree with. Ideally, everyone would live by the golden rule, and would not require the force of others to reprimand or punish them for doing otherwise... as after all, judging and punishing are the antithesis of the golden rule.
How are we expected to learn from those in power and respect them, if they themselves must break their rules, to enforce them?
I would say that it is the lack of passion for doing what is right which has prevented world peace from being our current condition.
Would civilization even advance the same without passion…. It depends on what we are passionate about:
Good passion --love of the common good.?
Indeed! Love of the common good, I like that. When we realize that all our actions are ultimately aimed at ourselves, no matter how much we appear to be projecting them onto others, it becomes so much easier to treat others how we'd prefer them to treat us. It's not easy at first, but it does get easier, and can become infectious. Just try smiling at someone and see if it isn't catching
Bad passion -- what ? Greed?
Well, sure, anything which is selfish at the cost of (an)others enjoyment/time/expense. That's not to say that arousing another's passions isn't a worthwhile course of action. Guess it basically comes down to intention. What might be objectionable or ‘sinful’ (not my favorite choice of word, but does the job) for one, might be altruistic and sacrificial for another. After all, giving up ones life for another is probably the least selfish and most altruistic action a person could ever do, yet suicide is considered the least altruistic and most selfish. All depends on the intent.
I always find strongly opinionated people to appear extremely foolish therefore I do not wish to be one, but opinions are like children , of ones own making.
I suppose no-one really wants to be thought a fool, but it is our personal differences which make us who we are.
A friend once told me, other people's opinion of you are none of your business (or to paraphrase, other people's opinions of me are none of my business).
With this realization, you can stop worrying so much about your reputation and simply stand up and shout out about what you think is right: where you think something is wrong, and where injustice is carried out by those whose job is to uphold justice; with the idea of true democracy, we are all equally responsible for doing so.
Of course, I also understand that not every discussion is supposed to be all about that, and I accept that there are many discussions that others would be passionate about that I am not. I suppose that I for one try hard to stick to the topic of a discussion, and try not to focus on the personality of others
Taking sides and arguing is not the sort of passion I was considering, but I suppose it is a form . I know some who enjoy a good debate, but some people are just as passionate about bird watching.
Assuming there is room for different interests and gifts, I can understand that someone has a passion for debate, just as others have a passion for friendly banter.
When I attend certain concerts, I am often moved to tears and...ummmmm arousal. I would consider myself a passionate listener....compared to those that are drumming their fingers waiting for it to be over
I can't speak for others, but perhaps giving up passion for comfort and security is not exactly correct.
Perhaps our passions have helped us arrive at our current level.
Emotional and sexual passions seem to derive from youth and as you age , you discard certain passions that no longer provide fulfillment or you deem unnecessary for personal growth.
But even as we age , passion remains powerful ... even though we may decide it isn't worth the acrimony to convince others of our passion.
Debating opposing opinions taught me to think , to be tolerant , to ask myself why I hold such opinions .
Debating, arguing or discussing varied topics here and many , many other forums often lead to digression. Once you expect and accept that fact , perhaps you will find enjoyment in my passionless discussions.
I'm pretty sure I'm living comfortably and have inner peace because of my passion .
I can argue passionately on the net with people I've never met. I can share an opinion and listen to others, as long as I'm not being talked down to as if I am the "dumb liberal" or the "dumb republican" (using politics is just an ex)
I've always found conversing a great way to debate. Plus, I feel I get to know people better - quicker
Arts have always been associated with arousal. Opera singers for instance, are known to have orgasms at the height of their performance, the effort --the tragic story --or happy ending-- all affect these necessarily passionate people.
If you want to hear a really passionate song have a couple of wines and get lost in Freddie Mercury's "Barcelona." The first time you hear it you may find it a bit " in ya face" with it's loudness but give it a second go and listen to the female opera singer who gives it her all. Best heard alone
I also think debate between male and female is necessarily a sexual skirmish there's always that little frisson of excitement there. If you dispute that you are fibbing or dead.
I think passion in debate does depend on age and level of tolerance.
Perhaps fighting or even debating isn't exactly what I look for here, Friendship is of course a very admirable resource one can never have too much (or many) of, but I would really like to see something a bit more groundbreaking; I may be the male strutting the stage looking for dominance and agreement with his viewpoint that really arouses the passions of others. For that, I guess, a dedicated, respectful "enemy" is often a most valued object.
But it seems my ideas are sometimes too much for others to address. Maybe I'm just such a strongly opinionated fool and I scare some people off?
Can you be passionate about neatness and organization? They must seem rather dry qualities to some. I guess I am zealous about the simplicity and balance in things…