I recently read an article in a parenting magazine about multiple faith families. Mothers who were Christians, and fathers who were atheists, as well as Jewish mothers and Christian fathers. It concerns me that people, who are living for a faith someone died for, are allowing post-modern values to taint what they believe. This idea is not about arguing whether one faith is more correct than the other, but about lessons the kids are learning from this “tolerance” in the home. Recent articles are saying that parents who choose to sacrifice what they believe, and raise their children according to their spouse’s beliefs are regretting it later in their child’s life. Their children grow up with a different set of beliefs and worldviews. There’s no common ground for giving advice, or helping their kids because the child does not understand where the parent is coming from. One mother mentioned her regret in not being more vocal about her faith. Because the husband was more vocal about what he believed, her daughters naturally followed the beliefs of the father, simply because they learned and understood his beliefs…through his verbal communications. Because of the shared beliefs with the father, the mother was respected significantly less. My concern isn’t in raising kids to be tolerant, I think there needs to be a degree of tolerance, or we become the crazy man on the corner with the bull horn, proclaiming the end of the world as people walk past and ignore us. I do believe, however, that we need to teach tolerance while teaching kids to stand up for what they believe. If we are teaching kids to be tolerant and fold about the things that really matter, there’s no foundation for when they have to step out into the world. There’s no real reason for them to choose to make wise decisions. To say no to drugs, tell their friends they won’t shop lift. If parents aren’t willing to stand up for the thing that they get their deepest beliefs from (i.e. their faith), why should their child have reason to stand up for sobriety, or a clean juvenile record? If parents don’t stand up for what they believe, will kids be less likely to hear and respect their point of view and opinions?