The psychologist Madeline Levine has seen the effects of "tiger parenting" or "hyper-parenting," and it's not a pretty picture. Due to the enormous pressure to succeed, children are behaving destructively.
Levine argues for a different approach that she calls "courageous parenting." If your child hasn't learned to read in kindergarten, don't freak out. You need to embrace the process of learning and developing skills, not just the outcome. In doing so, you will arrive at a different definition of success. Instead of overvaluing the obvious and relatively unimportant life skills that can be measured, courageous parenting focuses instead on cultivating what is really important, yet harder to measure.
This concept, of course, can and should be applied to any adult learner as well.