Re: A Land of Broken Marriages

Despite all the pain and suffering that is out there caused by failed marriages, has anyone considered that the rate may be a natural consequence? That the marriage failure rate may be simply what happens to humans when there is a surplus of resources and a large pool of potential mates? In much liked reading the rabbis comments and found the idea that 51% of women prefer to live alone without male companionship. But that still leaves me the question as to whether they live alone because they've decided that the given pool of men are not suitable or because the opportunity to meet the meet with a suitable partner hasn't presented itself? Is it perhaps that the impersonality of a mobile culture doesn't allow for contact between like peoples? To put it more succinctly, is the divorce rate a result of having more opportunities for divergent lives...whereas in the past, the available options for common activities was limited? It's somewhat of a perfect marriage storm...the greater opportunities allow for two people to diverge from common activities, it allows for people of different backgrounds to meet and most studies show degree of initial divergence in background is directly correlated to marriage failure and there is a greater opportunity to meet potential partners even when in a committed relationship. So...now that the djinn is out of the lamp and honestly, we are kinda stuck with this social system, what are we going to do about making it more amenable to long-term stable relationships? Can we make more amenable to long-term stable relationships? If not, what is an acceptable level of damage? Come to think of it, what's the level of damage (i mean actual in terms of personal happiness post-divorce vs. pre-divorce, etc) that we are encountering now?