As a pretty obviously transgender person, the defining element of my identity is immediately apparent upon meeting me. I am fortunate to live in a very tolerant location where people don't draw attention to it either in a negative or in a positive way, but the topic inevitably arises. I do welcome the opportunity to dispel misconceptions about transgender people and just move on. It is what it is, and in the words of Popeye, "I yam what I yam." Once the idea of the whole gender identity issue has been addressed, I prefer to draw attention to my technical/professional skills and general interests as the real defining traits of my identity. These are the things I feel should define one's identity, as opposed to traits such as race, gender, sexual orientation, etc.