A high self-monitor is someone who has antennae who can read a situation, who understands from the body language of other people in the room whether they are being experienced positively or negatively, whether they are adding to the energy in the room or sucking the energy out, whether they are acting in ways that people are going to be defensive or whether they are acting in ways that will encourage other people to act.  

Low self-monitors are people who have very little consciousness of what’s going on around them.  They don’t have these antennae, they don’t read these signals of other people and they don’t moderate their own behavior in response to reading these signals of people around them in the room.  I hope I am a high self-monitor.  

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